Get Excited- a Mindset!

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 3:18 pm on Saturday, March 31, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 59:

Although I am a big proponent of living in the moment- so as not to miss the awesomeness of each and every moment- there is something that I have always done since as far back as I can remember.  I have always rejoiced in having something fun and exciting to look forward to.  (big or small)

In reading the book, A Prosperous Life by Julia Cameron (author of The Artist’s Way) I was reminded of this idea.  (I do this naturally and since it is a habit I have, I tend not to give it much thought.)  She expresses the thought that even though big dreams we have may be out of reach this minute- we don’t have to live in the world of all or nothing.  For instance, maybe a person longs to be a painter, and is very talented, but life’s current circumstances won’t allow for it.  The person, feeling the impossibility of the situation, may not spend ANY time painting.  Cameron suggests taking a step to bring what you want into your life.  This person could plan to spend a certain amount of time painting each day or week, take a class, teach a class, and more.  Doing the thing that you long to do brings the energy of it into your life where amazing and surprising opportunities show up and experiences can begin to happen.

I am a big advocate of just having every day life, fun things to look forward to.  Lunch or dinner with people you enjoy and can laugh with (even planning weeks out), having a certain food that you love (see, these do not need to be GARGANTUAN things to look forward to), game night with the family, seeing a movie that you have wanted to see, traveling to a certain place (you can start to make plans for that YEARS in advance, even, by just starting to research online and read books about the place starting today).  I even look forward to the day of the week I will take a walk in the place I love.  I am the queen of getting excited about every little thing.  I line them up each day, each week.

The KEY is that I do not wait for things to happen for me….I plan them MYSELF!  If I waiting for my friends to plan a gathering, ,maybe I would never see them.  I have certain friends that I ONLY see if I reach out and plan the outing.  We have a great time together, so it’s so worth it!

On this last day of Mindset March, I want to leave you with this.  A HUGE  part of keeping a powerful and positive mindset is to keep in the place of feeling good.  When you plant little excitements and things to look forward to throughout your life, that goes a long way toward staying positive EVERY day of your life!

What will you plan first?

Mindset and Focus Weekend

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 9:35 am on Friday, March 30, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 59:

One of the things that gets in my way, and in the way of many of my clients and friends is that we have too many things we want to do all of the time.  Can you relate to this?  There is so much to learn, do and experience- and that’s the list before obligations come into the picture!  The weekends can be a time to tend to make a long list and pile on the expectations.  How much enjoyment do you get out of that, really?  Do you get a lot done, or do you arrive at Sunday night feeling badly about what you didn’t accomplish?

This weekend do something different.  Look at all of the things that are on the schedule already- things you have committed  to doing.  Write down how much time you have left over, realistically, and when.  Now look at the list of all of things you would like to get done- I call this my master list- the one I pull from to write out the next days schedule each night.  Which one project or action would make the biggest impact on your life and how good you will feel for accomplishing it?  Schedule that in to the time(s) that you will work on it this weekend.  Will you be taking steps toward it, or will you be doing that and completely it, too?  Be clear about your goal and expectation.  After scheduling this one in, assess how much time you have left, and if you have some, take a second thing from the list and repeat what you did for the first one, and so on.

Weekends are totally personal, and some of us work on the weekends, too and if we are not working at our official job, we are driving kids all over town.  Having realistic expectations about what can be done will be a real treat.  I know some Saturdays, all I plan to get done is some reading in the car as I wait for kids to come out of various activities.  If I were to put a bunch of things on a list for Saturday, I am setting myself up for failure as there is literally no time.

I am a big advocate of taking Sundays to just enjoy, especially if you have Saturday and Sunday off from work.  A day to be with family, to enjoy a hobby, activity, to create something- gardening, cooking, etc.  Time to sit quietly to reflect on the past week and to plan the week ahead.  Just slow it down.  Be realistic with these things, too.  Don’t have a huge list- just plan to enjoy your day, and once again focus on one or two things that you really want to do that day.

Continuing to make the weekends a stressful time to try to get too much done only starts the new week off on the wrong foot.

Try a slower, more reasonable pace- you know what this is for you- this weekend and see how you feel.  Enjoy starting next week feeling centered, accomplished, and energized.

Feel Good Mindset

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 4:02 pm on Thursday, March 29, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 58:

Because I am short on time and getting ready to bundle up for my Spectrum Solidarity Sleep Out experience (see day 55), I want to offer a simple thought for today.  For the next day just focus on feeling good.  Do things that you love, find things that you love about what you are doing, focus on being in tune with whether you feel good or not about certain things that you are thinking about or doing.  Start to pay attention to the fact that the things you don’t feel good about, might not be good for you.  AND start to recognize this ahead of time so that you don’t even have to go down the path of not feeling good.

If you have to do something that does not feel good to you, like you have a job you are not enjoying at the moment, for example, make yourself find something that is good about it somehow and focus on that, just for the next day.  Working on your mindset is a full time job, and so is feeling good- a worthy pursuit!  Better than the alternative.

Feel good Friday- that’s what I’m talking about!

The Spamalot Mindset

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 9:27 am on Wednesday, March 28, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 57:

If you ever have a chance to see Spamalot-  the Broadway show, or touring version of it, GO!!  I really advocate laughing as an important part of daily life and this show will prompt you to laugh for over 2 hours!  Just fun, silly humor- the kind I like best.

My favorite song in the show is “Always Look on the Bright Side of Life”- a mindset I strive to adopt each day.  In the show King Arthur is depressed and his sidekick Patsy sings this song to him- complete with whistling- and finally gets him singing it, too.  Once King Arthur gets into this mindset, something miraculous happens, they find a shrubbery where he previously believed it would be impossible.  (You have to see the show to really understand just how funny the whole thing about the shrubbery is!)  It is just another portrayal of how getting your mindset into the right place, helps to produce results that are not possible otherwise.

Today I suggest:

1. Find this song and listen to it!

2.  Look at the bright side of something that you have previously only been seeing the negative in.  Create some hope in an area where it seems none is possible.

3.  Whistle.  (It’s hard to be real unhappy or negative while you whistle.)

4.  Find something to laugh about and LAUGH like crazy!

The Mindset of Discomfort

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 10:36 am on Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge Day 56:

“If you are not spending time in discomfort each day, then you are not making progress.”  Robin Sharma

If you are not interested in making progress in your life and work, then don’t worry about it.  Stay nice and comfy.  For the rest of us, doing things that are out of our comfort zone not only can fuel us with greater energy than we have ever known, but may also keep us young, and will certainly lead to the creation of new levels of excellence in our lives.

Start to look to say yes to offerings of experiences that are new to you.  This is one of the reasons I said yes to doing the Spectrum Solidarity Sleepout- the idea of it made me very uncomfortable. (see post from yesterday, Day 55)  http://www.spectrumsleepout.kintera.org/faf/donorReg/donorPledge.asp?ievent=1009271&supid=352951100

Doing the same old, same old in your life and business just leads to more of the same.  In order to really grow we most likely need to get out of our usual path, which means discomfort.  Learn to welcome it!  I love this AMAZING quote from Robin Sharma- “Comfort is bad, discomfort is good!”  So complex!

If you have read this far, I know you are thinking of places in your work, career, endeavors where you want to take the plunge on something, but haven’t due to the fear of the unknown.  That’s discomfort.  Risking trying something new that you might not immediately be good at, that’s discomfort.  The possibility of being rejected, that’s discomfort.

How do you get past fear and dive into discomfort?  One, you focus on the big picture, which is what you want and you REALLY want it and Two- you JUST DO IT!!

How much time do you spend in discomfort daily?  Self imposed?

How do YOU get past fears to welcome discomfort in your life?

Please comment!

Solidarity Sleepout

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 6:47 pm on Monday, March 26, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 55:

This week I am doing a different kind of fundraiser.  Many days of the month I am working on raising money for something, but rarely am I asked to actually do something challenging in return.  I’ve done bike rides and walk a thons, I have done dancing or sold things and even some other things I have now forgotten, but normally the activities do not pose a big challenge for me- and many times they are even fun.  This week I am going to sleep outside in support of and in solidarity with homeless youth in Vermont.  This may not sound like a challenge for you campers out there, but I can assure you, for me it is.  I have never in my entire life slept outside over night.  There is also the challenge of our back to seasonably cold weather- so I am planning my bundling up strategies.

I feel sheepish even considering for one second that I may be uncomfortable.  I know what I will be doing will be nothing like the experience that homeless youth go through night after night.  I will, however, experience the care and attention of the dedicated people of Spectrum Youth and Family Services.  The hope is to raise over $50,000 for them to continue and broaden their ability to help the homeless in our state.  There will be fifty of us gathered for the sleep out.  I am hoping that there is strength in numbers and that the exposure that each one of us gives individually to this cause will compound into big results for Spectrum and those they serve.

Please click the link below :

http://www.spectrumsleepout.kintera.org/faf/donorReg/donorPledge.asp?ievent=1009271&supid=352951100

Help me to do my part to reach the fundraising goal and especially to find out more about what Spectrum does in our community.  Please help us to spread the word!  Thank you!

 

A Mindset of Acceptance

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 9:53 am on Sunday, March 25, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 54:

Acceptance:  Favorable reception; approval; favor.

I like to make my Sunday post spiritual in nature and this morning at a very early morning church service I heard a word: acceptance.  This is a word that comes up often in the values card deck that I use in coaching sessions with my clients.  You can look at this word from all kinds of angles, see all sorts of meanings, and always come up with something that is appropriate to the situation we are working on.

Today’s angle is this:  looking for ways to make others feel accepted.  Today is a good day to take pause and reflect on where we do a good job welcoming others, including others, and making others feel important, rather than outcast.  I know I can be overly optimistic at times, it is my nature, and I am okay with it, but I am still surprised every time I see grown ups acting like we are still in the school yard.  There are still people who don’t include others, there is still the person who is “the last one picked.”  Groups of adults huddled talking and when someone walks up they stop talking or turn their backs, for example.  Why does this still happen?  I am not pointing the finger at anyone in particular, as I do feel that in some situations we all have the inclination to behave this way, and only awareness and purpose can keep us away from this.

So today in addition to seeing where you are doing well, consider the times and places where you might not be including and welcoming others.  What groups do you belong to both and business and in the rest of your life where there are people hanging around needing you to include them, but for whatever reason, you are not.  What are these reasons?  There is usually some level of fear at the root of these behaviors, on our part.  Taking a moment to stop and think about what it might be can really help us to open up compassionately to see how our actions can hurt others.

If you are up to big things in life, if your intention creating a joyful life for yourself and those around you and to bring good in to the world, there is no place in your world for lack of acceptance of others.  Make it a point to raise awareness in your life this week and to look past pre-conceived notions to really get to know someone instead of blocking them out.  Go out and make someone feel amazing because you include them whole heartedly in something you and your friends or colleagues are doing.  Don’t just sit at the “cool” table this week- that behavior is SO last week.

 

 

Mindset and Your Day

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 3:55 pm on Saturday, March 24, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge Day 53:

Having a well planned out, thoughtful, on purpose day is a sure way to boost your mindset.  Planning your day the night before is a concept that I work with all of my clients on.  It gives you the best chance of getting what you want to get done and experience in your day.

One of the most important pieces of this- I believe- is how you start and end your days.  Darren Hardy calls these the “bookends” of your day.  What you do when you first wake up in the morning to the time you arrive at work and what you do from the time work ends and bedtime.  These two times of the day set you up for success, or not, depending upon how you utilize them.

In the morning think about doing things that center and energize you.  This is the foundation of the day ahead.  Exercising, prayer, meditation, planning, reading, goal review and setting, eating a healthful breakfast, are all examples of things that work well in the morning.  At night think about things that wind you down, relaxing, reading, gratitudes, reflection on your day, prayer, a light and healthy dinner, maybe an enjoyable walk, and writing out your schedule/plan for the next day can set you up for a peaceful sleep and get you ready to start another great day.

If you are working on going to the next level in your life and want to start maximizing your time each day- this is an excellent place to start!  Use my suggestions and please comment on this:  What other activities would you add to your bookends to make each day more meaningful and successful according to what you want in your life?

Gratitude, again!

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 10:20 am on Friday, March 23, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge Day 52:

I don’t think I will ever get tired of speaking and writing about the power of gratitude.  I want to mention it today as I have had several people cross my path lately who are down and they are stuck in thinking about how things aren’t working and going well in their lives.  It is easy for me, because I am outside of their heads and life, to think of countless things that are amazing in each of their lives.  They are so stuck in the stress of what is happening that they are almost blind to these things.

If things seem like they are not going well and you don’t see anything good in your life-  FORCE yourself to take pen and paper- not computer- and make a list of all of the good things in your life.  Just starting to do this instantly changes your focus and your mindset.  Thinking about what is good and what you are grateful for pulls more of that to you- just as the opposite does the opposite.

Continuously having a practice of writing down the good things in your life every night before you go to bed can put you in a great place 99% of the time, and when you slip off, you can get back on track quickly.  Develop this ongoing practice as a foundation in your life and for your well being.  The enjoyment you feel every day of your life will skyrocket.

“You become what you think about most of the time.”  Earl Nightingale  Meaning what you are spending most of your time thinking about is what shows up in your life- every time, no exceptions.

Start a gratitude journal tonight.

Focus on the Positive

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 7:18 pm on Thursday, March 22, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 51:

We’ve all heard this before- if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  How about this one- look to find something positive about someone instead of looking for the negative and habitually judging.

How often do you follow this advice?  Depending upon who influenced us when we were growing up, this can be difficult to do.  I was taught to play “pick apart” when I was young- looking for what was wrong with people- even people I didn’t know.  This always bothered me as it goes against my nature.  People we look up to teach us things not even knowing that they are doing it.  I have worked hard to stay away from that type of behavior and to focus on the good.  It takes work for all of us, especially if we are stressed out or tired.  When practiced daily, it can become your habit.

Once you start to realize that we are all doing the best we can with wherever we are in life at a particular moment in time, you can start to have more compassion and think positively about others.

This applies to situations, too.  How we act or react in different situations  are also learned behaviors.  It takes becoming conscious of our thoughts and actions to make changes.

You could decide, for the next 24 hours to look for the good in everyone whose path you cross and in every situation that presents itself to you.  It may be challenging, but you will learn a lot about yourself in the process.  Then you can decide if you want to adjust your thoughts or behaviors based on what you learned.

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