Celebration and What I Learned

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 10:57 am on Sunday, May 20, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 100!!

The day is here!!  Well, it was actually yesterday, but here I am, still not giving up!  To realize that I missed day 100 when I woke up this morning threatened to be disheartening, but then I just found myself laughing!  One of the reasons that I have done this challenge is the lessen the importance of my idea of perfection in my blogging.  It is not surprise to me when I think about the last 100+ days  that softening perfection being one of the goals, I had several instances of imperfection.  I missed a few days on vacation, some of my blog posts were less than perfect in information, depth, punctuation or spelling, etc.

Here are a few other things I have learned:

-I do not give up, no matter what!

-Even what I thought was imperfect, someone else needed, or liked.

-Challenges bring energy to your life.  (what are you doing to challenge yourself right now?)

-I love to write and when I give myself enough time, I can be pretty good at it.

-I have a lot to learn to become a good writer.

-Planning to blog daily while on vacation with your family is a REAL challenge.

So, now on to the celebration part!  Anytime you do a long challenge, and stick with it, doing something to recognize it is important.  I can celebrate what I learned, which I feel I have while writing this post.  I can also celebrate the discipline and determination it took for me to see this through- even when I didn’t feel like it, even when I forgot or let vacation get in the way and could have thrown in the towel.  I am also celebrating the fact that even though some of my posts were so-so, I did hear from many people over the 100 days that something I had written had impacted them in a positive way.  I also know that there may be many other who have not let me know that they enjoyed something I wrote.

So, am I bummed out that I missed day 100, of all things?  Haha!!  No way- it is the “perfect” ending to this challenge.

Thanks for reading, I hope you are laughing with me.

I think we need to celebrate with dinner out tonight!

Make Yourself

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 8:09 pm on Friday, May 18, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 99:

Sometimes I just don’t feel like doing what I said I was going to do.  But I make myself do it, anyway.  You know, I always feel great when I do.

I teach my clients that the greatest rewards happen when you actually do the things you know are the right choices, when you really don’t want to.  I have always found that to be true.

When you start to waver, get your goals out and read them.  Make yourself write down AGAIN why you said you would  or wanted to do it in the first place.  Many times we just need reminding.

Don’t deprive yourself of great rewards!  Keep moving forward……make yourself.

Fulfilling Your Wishes

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 12:54 pm on Thursday, May 17, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 98:

Do you ever lose track of where you are in your life?  I think sometimes that we get so busy and caught up with the stuff of everyday living that what is most important to us gets buried.  Do you remember what wishes you had for your life way back when?  Unless you just recently did a life review- a session I do with people to gain clarity on where they are at- for yourself or with a coach, you may be feeling a little off center.  I describe this as just getting through each day- day by day, but exactly feeling on purpose or finding the joy in it all.

Dr. Wayne Dyer has a new book out called Wishes Fulfilled.  In it he talks about really getting to the heart of your true self and what that true self wants and needs.  As I express to my clients and any audience I have the privilege to talk to, taking quiet time just to think is essential.  If we don’t back out of our busy lives for a brief time, our noisy lives will never allow the higher thinking of our true selves to come through.  The noise is a distraction AND an excuse.

YOU have to decide to take control and take the time for yourself.  No one else will ever do it for you.  My biggest wish for all of my clients is that they would all embrace and live this thought to the fullest:  that taking care of yourself, doing things you love, and taking time to be super fit and healthy- mind body spirit- for yourself leads you to an incredible life, AND is a gift to all others in your life as you offer them an incredible you.

So, the first step in fulfilling the wishes of your life is to actually get in touch with what they are.  Take the time, explore, write.  From that place all things are possible and will already be in motion!


Inspired and Happy!

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 6:24 pm on Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 97:

If you are looking to add to the supply of inspiration in your life, then look no further than your community.  There is no shortage of events that are about honoring individuals and non profits for the wonderful work they do. Especially at this time of year.  Consider attending some of them!

In the past week I have been inspired at the Women Business Owner’s Network, The Flynn Center for the Performing Arts, The United Way and Mercy Connections who, if you are not familiar with them, help women and men in transition from prison to life out in the world once again.  They also run a program to assist women who have a business idea to make their idea a reality.  Amazing things are going on in your community.  You might think about getting involved, or just support the event and donate some money.  Do what you can do, but at the very least, become aware of what is happening in your community, what the needs are and what so many great and generous people are doing.

It has been said countless times- one of the best way to feel happy is to go do something for someone else that makes them happy.  Having a goal to do this daily is a very good idea, I think!


Stay on Course

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 2:26 pm on Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 96:

One of the hardest things to do is to stay on course when something unexpected happens.  Not getting the business you thought you were going to get, losing a client, risking money on something you thought was a sure thing that wasn’t, not being accepted into a group or school or class that you really wanted to get into, not getting the opportunity that was promised you.  These are all real let downs and can easily take the wind right out of your sails.  You can probably add to this list, as well.

The real trick is to figure out how to keep moving forward with an attractive mindset regardless of what has just happened.  When you let the situation really get to you, it is apparent to all, regardless of how you try to cover it up.  Getting square with a supportive mindset as quickly as possible is going to get you more and better to replace what was seemingly lost.

I have made it a real study to watch my mindset on things I feel I have “lost” and had another opportunity to do it again today.  The truth is, that there are no mistakes.  The situation has always been for my higher good, even though I may not have been overjoyed at the time.  I have learned to look for the good in the situation, to bless the situation and the person(s) involved and to be believe in the best for everyone.  This, I believe, leaves me in a positive, and attractive place to make room for something better for me to come into my life.

Staying in the I just “lost” something and it’s not fair mindset is the opposite of attractive- it is repelling.

So snap out of it quickly!  It happened, get over it and move on.  These are the words I say to myself and I take them to heart.  Things happen in life that we do not welcome, they always will.  It is the level of attention you give these things, and not the thing itself that really matters.  Don’t blow it up, don’t be a victim.  Learn what you can and then get focused on what you do want.

Move, Breathe, Stretch

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 2:01 pm on Monday, May 14, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 95:

Does the idea of taking a quantum leap in your well being sound good to you?  It is funny, but many times when we think of such things we brace ourselves for all of the doing that is about to happen.  Am I sure I want to do it?  Am I really up to it?  Do I even have the energy?  We immediately start to doubt and question ourselves.

What if I told you that taking a quantum leap in your well being can actually take inaction?  You might be surprised to hear this, and you might be just as skeptical about inaction as you are about action.  That’s what I am talking about, funny!

Sometimes we have to slow down to speed up.  Here is a list of a few things you can experience this week to take your health- mind body and spirit- to the next level this week:

-sit quietly with eyes closed for twenty minutes (without sleeping)

-mediate for 1/2 hour to 1 hour- find a recorded meditation, or use your own mantra.  Also, look into www.centerpointe.com for a great mediation.

-take a slow, fresh air walk- 10-20 minutes.  Enjoy the blooming flowers and the ducks in the pond. (this is a great idea several times a week or daily!)

-take a break to do some rejuvenating breathing- 10 counts in, hold, 20 counts out is a good one to try.  Google breathing exercises- there are many!

-take time after you are up and moving around to do some stretching.  Do a few stretches throughout the day, especially if you have been sitting for more than an hour.

-think about taking a restorative yoga class- you can try many classes for free the first time you go.

-take time to read something personally uplifting for even a few minutes per day.

Enjoy the process of slowing down a bit- you will certainly gain energy and perspective!


Mother’s Day Happiness

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 10:33 am on Sunday, May 13, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 94:

I am having some realizations about Mother’s Day and what it means to me.  I am feeling like somewhat of a bratty kid this year, having done quite a lot of complaining over the past year about the lack of importance placed on Mother’s Day in my house.  I think one of my “issues” is that just like the kid born on Christmas day, my birthday falls exactly one week before Mother’s Day.  I already had my special day, so Mother’s Day is really no big deal.

What I realize and have worked to help my family realize is that birthday and Mother’s Day are completely different.  Yes, you are still recognizing me on my birthday (although I do share my birthday with my son, a fact I will always cherish), but today, Mother’s Day, is for the recognition of all of my motherly efforts.

I don’t need a stack of expensive gifts, or even one, but make me feel recognized, appreciated, even cherished for being the Mom of the family.  YES, I do need this!  Yes, I do know that everyone appreciates it, in my heart, but today…..let’s make a big deal out of it!  Make me a card, or TELL me how much I mean to you.  Think about something I like to do and arrange the doing of it.  This way I know you even pay attention to knowing what I like.  I know you care.

After all the racing around, homework help, late night nightmare chasing, hugging, breakfast, lunch and dinner making, laundry, forgotten stuff delivery, cleaning up, basketball and game playing, reading, and overall just plain making sure that you have a GREAT life, I think that a little extra love and attention is warranted.

So honor your Mother today.  See her if she is nearby.  Call her if she isn’t.  We as Mother’s are doing the best we can, even if we don’t always do everything perfectly.  If you need to forgive, this may be the day.


Bogged Down

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 2:56 pm on Saturday, May 12, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge Day 93:

Do you ever hear yourself saying things like “I am swamped!”  “I am buried with work” , maybe “I am completely overwhelmed”?  If so this post is for you!  It is so easy to get bogged down with so many projects and things to do that we don’t even know what to do first.  Here are  tips to help you move forward with peace:

1.  Write down EVERYTHING you are currently responsible for.  Just the action of writing it all down and getting it out of your head will allow you easier breathing!  Many times it looks like a lot less than what we think carrying it all around in our heads.

2. PRIORITIZE the list.  Does everything really need to be done now?  What things could you actually even let go of either altogether or delegate to someone else?

3. Identify what’s been on your list FOREVER that just never seems to get done?  Chances are it is not something that is REALLY important to you, but rather something someone else, or even you, think you SHOULD do.  Make a decision on it once and for all, and if it stays, schedule in an action to move it forward in the next 24 hours.

4. Schedule in a day in the next week where you work on NOTHING!  We all need a break and approaching these things fresh allows you to knock out a lot more than if you just keep pushing.  This is counter intuitive to many, as we have been trained that if you keep pushing you will succeed.  Taking a break here and there will allow you to succeed gracefully!

Success Quote that Says It All!

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 7:26 pm on Friday, May 11, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 92:

I came across this quote again today that really brings it all home to me.  Please read it and consider this weekend how you can bring success into your life.  Enjoy!


“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson





7 Steps to Productive Business Planning

Filed under: 2012 100 Day Challenge — kdubrul at 9:58 am on Thursday, May 10, 2012

The 100 Day Challenge, Day 91:

In spent the day yesterday with a fantastic group of women at the Annual Women Business Owners Network Spring Conference.  We covered a lot of important topics, and even got to hear from Madeline Kunin, former Governor of the State of Vermont on women in business today.

One of the things that stuck out, for me, was the topic of business planning.  It became apparent through a panel and through talking with other attendees that people are operating without plans.  It is pretty common, from what I am observing.

I love the old saying- “If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail.” which has been attributed most often to Ben Franklin.  If you are running a business with no business plan then your chances of success are slim.  And not just any old plan, you need a good plan!

I work with my business coaching clients on planning each month.  If you are in business OR you are you have duties in your job and intend to do your best work, make sure you that you have a plan that covers all areas which may include:

Financials (always a lot to be learned here, and people become fearful because they don’t understand the numbers.  Hire someone to teach you- today!)



Customer Service


Daily schedule



The Numbers (this is different from financial- these are the numbers you need in other areas like how many contacts you need to make each day to prospective customers, etc)


and more.  Make sure you are complete with every detail.

Here are 7 steps for productively working with your plan-

- make sure you treat it as a working document, it can change over the course of the year.  That means keeping it handy, not collecting dust or hidden in the drawer of your desk- which leads to …

-Review your plan completely each morning prior to starting your work day.  This is a brief run through to remind yourself of goals and priorities.

-Plan at least 1 hour each week to sit with your plan, work on it, adjust it and make the next week’s goals and schedule actions based on it.

-Have someone trusted, who understands business plans, review yours with you.  Check for reality and for completeness.  Does your plan make sense?  Did you forget anything?

-Use your plan for guidance when you feel off track or working on making big decisions.

-Have a retreat planning day in November to create the next year’s business plan.

-Make sure your plan is comprehensive, but sleek and efficient.  No bulky plans needed.


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